One after the other, Nigerians who indulged in homosexuality with
impunity narrate how they eventually opted for this illicit romantic
escapade CHARLES ADINGUPU writes that as the government tries to clip
their wings, they hid under veil of fundamental human right.
James Onuoha (real names withheld) a banker, is a product of both
Western influences and the traditional cultures of Nigeria.
Academically, he’s a Western, having acquired his first and second
degrees in financial management in an American university at his prime.
But emotionally, he is swayed by age old superstition and the traditions
of his people.
When the time comes for him to get married, James bowed to family
pressures, and chooses a girl from among his own Ibos, leaving his
mistress of many years behind in Lagos. But the lucky bride, Obiagali,
whom he finally chooses, is tied to the apron string of the primitive
curse of the village gods. Undeterred by this chilling discovery, James,
together with his wife to be, agreed to go through a curious and
sinister ritual to secure her release so that they can marry.
Ironically, at the climax of the purification exercise to extricate
Obiagali from the grip of the village gods, she died in a mysterious
circumstance.
Disappointed at the tragic death of his heart-throb, James was thrown
into pensive mood. Two days after, he left the village unannounced to
resume his work in Lagos. All appeal by his parents and kinsmen to take
another girl in the village as replacement for a wife fell on deaf ear,
rather, James opted to remain a bachelor. He ignores emissaries sent by
his parents to rescind his decision to remain single despite the
enormous wealth at his disposal.
Events happen so quickly in James’ new life. Just one day, he chances
upon an old friend. After exchange of pleasantries, which revealed
their new status, the friend invited James to a club party – gay club
which he obliged.
That party changed James’ life as he gave in to overtures made at him
by men lovers. Right from then on, James has a man lover, perhaps as
an escape route to bury his ugly past.
Bad news, they say, spreads faster than disease. James has defined a
life style for himself. He’s a gay – married to a fellow man. A kinsman
who visited the village from Laos broke the news to James’ father.
“Have you heard?” he questions James’ father rhetorically.
“What is it, my son?”
“Your son, James is now married to a man in Lagos. He leaves with him
in his house. Though, he tells people and neighbours that the young man
is a friend. But he was kind enough to disclose the truth to me,” he
said.
“Abomination!” the old man exclaimed in disbelief.
“So the story is true. For sometime now, my son, James has become a
song for drunkards and a subject of whispering gossips at both the
village square and beer parlour. See what city life has done to my son,”
he lamented.
But James is just one of most Nigerians who indulged in this abysmal practice of homosexuality with impunity.
The story of Chinwe, a Nigerian lesbian based in Britain who flew
into Nigeria to advocate the legalisation of homosexuality is still
fresh in our minds. At the public hearing in Benin, Edo State, the self
confessed Lesbian (Chinwe) wept profusely before the gathering why
homosexuality should be enshrined in Nigeria’s constitution as a way of
life and an infringement of their (homosexuals) fundamental human rights
if their agitation is treated with levity.
Nigerians marvelled at the impudence and shamelessness of her face
saving remarks. They variably winced under the biting sarcasm her
comments elicited. But the last sentence, they found very exasperating
as villianeous tongues of women in the vicinity lashed out with a sting
that was too painful for her to bear.
Chinwe who was sandwiched by armed police officers, was taunted and teased but stood her ground.
Also, a male popular Nigerian musician was reportedly caught in the
act with a renowned male entertainer. Though, the musician refuted the
story, threatened to sue the newspaper for defamation of character,
however, buried his head in shame when photographs, showing his
clandestine affair were published days after the story was reported.
That singular publication, however, sealed the lips of the musician and
hairy entertainer lover.
John Amaechi, a basketball player in the NBA made a revelation of the
plight of gay athletes in major league sports. In his book, titled, Man
in the middle, Amaechi exposes the institutionalised homophobia
inherent in the hyper-masculine world by American professional athletes.
Though, his exposure was greeted with avalanche of criticisms, but
Ameachi was undeterred as he went ahead to openly discussed LGBT issues
as well as encouraging other gay athletes to pursue their dreams
irrespective of their shameful life-style.
These days, Nigerians who indulged in the illicit practice no longer
operate under cover. They make bold to demonstrate their gayness by
trying to initiate unsuspecting Nigerians into their fold.
Reverend Rowland Olajide Macaulay is a Nigerian Apostle of gay. His
nefarious activities and a gay church was exclusively reported by
Saturday Vanguard barely a month ago.
His church called House of Rainbow, was located at No. 36/36 Yakoyo
Street, Ojodu Berger, Lagos and has become an abode for established gays
and initiates.
According to the gay man of God, “my church is a voice of the younger
generation of citizens, activists and diaspora, and our collective
belief in a more progressive Nigeria. They are afraid of our growing
influence as we gather allies not just from the West, a people that are
not afraid but powerful and resilient.”
“Religion,” he observed, is a backbone to life in Nigeria, so, we all
want to go to church. But we don’t want to lie to God about who we
are.”
Macaulay who established his House of Rainbow in 2006 where he openly
held Sunday services in an hotel hall in Lagos, decorated in rainbow
colours however abandoned the church after a public backslash which
culminated in manhandling of his members. He fled to the UK after he
received death threats from unknown persons.
But Saturday Vanguard’s investigation shows that the man is back on
the trenches. This year, he has recruited a small team which includes
among others his local leaders in Lagos.
But for Mrs Josephine Adebayo being a lesbian was a choice she made
following the neglect of her husband’s nonchalant attitude towards her.
Narrating her ordeal to Saturday Vanguard at her Victoria Island
residence, Mrs Adebayo said lesbianism has offered her the romance the
husband denies her.
“You may not belief it except you try it, lesbianism is more
intriguing than most people thought. Though, I was hesitant to accept it
when one of my good friends initially talked me into it. But today,
I’ve every course to be grateful to her. Besides, my lover woman is so
good at it,” she confesses.
A 21 year-old man, Adisa was almost lynched recently at Amukoko, a
suburb in Lagos for sodomising teenagers for rituals. According to
residents in the area, Adisa who was reverend as a man of God was caught
in the act with one of the teenage boys in the area but he escaped
through his back door. Also, a Nigerian gay was reported in one of the
social medias as being married to a German lawyer and later divorced
him.
Okechukwu, another Nigerian gay is currently operating a gay
entertainment company in Abia State. Okechukwu however, disclosed that
the main preoccupation of his company is to provide gay dancers and
entertainment services for private parties and business functions.
But Anthonia Okorodudu (not real names) said she was introduced into
lesbianism in a girls’ `, secondary school in Ughelli, Delta State.
According to her, the senior students usually had them as bunk-mates
only to start fumbling with them when night falls. “At a time, the
exercise was disgusting. First, I can’t imagine a fellow woman kissing
and dipping her finger into my virgina as well as fumbling with my
breast,” she said.
Today, Anthonia who later graduated in lesbianism has become mistress in the game.
“I’ve introduced many other notable women who suffer marital problems
into the game. I must confess that they are enjoying it. Though, it’s a
personal life style, hence the identities of such persons cannot be
easily disclosed,” she said.
But Ethel who also attended an only girls secondary school in Enugu attested to this fact.
According to Ethel, “sometimes, your lover can ditch and abandons you
in the cold. Under such circumstance, we insert candle into our virgina
to get the desired erotic satisfaction. “You know, the edge of a candle
stick looks more like a male’s organ. But there is a way of going about
this,” Ethel reveals.
Similarly, Andrew Adewusi who attended an only Boys Secondary School
in the North, said boys indulged in all manners of acts to derive erotic
maximum satisfaction.
Till date, most of those boys who were caught in the act of gay in
school refused to dump the illicit act. They are already neck deep in
it,” he said.
Common features of
homosexuals
Though they are not easy to be identified but they possess peculiar traits which set them apart from ordinary persons.
Just like gigoloes, men who indulge in the act are generally fashionable and possess the carriage of a woman.
They are usually meticulous of their looks. Some of them wear ear-rings, fanciful plaited wrist watch and some finger rings.
Also, some of them use make-up as eye pencil and even apply lip-sticks.
They use feminine voice (emotional) whenever they are making overtures.
What thrills them in the fellow men, is guys with robust back side.
For Lesbians
Some of them prefer to look like a Tom-Boy. They dress like men but
at the same time, stay away from men. Often times, they go in pairs and
belong to one social club or the other.
They are usually society women who are into big time business. Musicians and politicians fall prey to such advances.
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